Self-Love
Our lives are seemingly infused with love. But in truth by default we don’t know what love truly is. As a result of our inherently self-serving, self-justifying nature the only love we know is “self-love”.
Due to our egocentric “pleasure/pain principle” we are unable to make any calculations for anybody else but ourselves. For us love is a state where we gain selfish pleasure, fulfillment from “loving” another. Without receiving such selfish reward, fulfillment we can’t “love” as only our own state is important.
Mother’s Love
Even the “purest” love we can find in our world – the mother’s love for her baby – is selfish, since the mother always feels her baby as part of herself, regardless of age or physical distance. Thus by loving her child the mother still loves herself, she loves her own part in the child.
Still we can learn from the mother’s love the total self-annulment of the mother towards the baby, and how the love is expressed in constant concern, constant need to care for the child. A mother is never at rest, she is never satisfied. She always searches for opportunities to care for her child and lives in constant fear for the most perfect state, well-being of the offspring.
The mother’s love is a beautiful graphic, tangible example of giving existence to another and constantly caring to nurture, sustain that existence while being ready for complete self-sacrifice.
Being Human
We can use this example in order to reveal and attain the greatest, truest love in reality, that created and sustains our existence.
Our Human purpose in life is to exit our inherent “self-love” and through acquiring selfless, unconditional “love of others” – a true mother’s love for people we have no natural connection with – to attain the original, pure, “superhuman” love that created reality.
Revelation, attainment is only possible through reaching similarity, then equivalence with the revealed, attained. This is why we are called Human – Adam in Hebrew from the expression “similar” – as in our final evolutionary form we are destined to become similar to the loving source of life.
The Laboratory Of Love
And here comes the difficulty. Since we are inherently completely opposite to this creating force, quality with our selfish and egoistic nature, we are unable to sense it. And since we have no connection to this force, quality, we have comprehension about it, we can’t develop any sensations towards it let alone love it.
Thus we need an intermediary instrument, laboratory where we can develop “true love” through “love of others” in order to connect to our life giving source through the acquired similarity.
In order to make this new “love of others” true it needs to develop in between people who have no usual, natural relationships in between them. Thus a unique circle of “friends” is organized, and these “friends” fully commit themselves to a practical program in order to acquire a true “love of others” above their inherent “self-love”.
Love Sickness
As mentioned above “love of others” is drastically different from “self-love”. It is not enough that the object of love, care and concern is changing from the “self” to “outside of the self”. Besides while “self-love” is about constantly chasing, collecting fulfilment, “love of others” is about chasing, collecting need, concern, capability and opportunity to serve. While “self-love” is characterized by satiation, receiving for oneself, “love of others” is characterized by exponentially growing lack, desire to give to others.
Thus these people start first of all play acting, trying with all their might to build a mutual bond, “mutual guarantee” in between them against their instinctive distrust, rejection. And the more they try the more the inherently selfish, egoistic nature awakens and prevents, obstructs them in their efforts.
To the extent they keep their mutual goal and the commitment they made, the more important they picture that goal, the more frustrated, upset they become as a result of their repeated failures. This seemingly negative existence, sense of failure gradually changes to “love sickness”, like in between lovers, brothers who want to get together, connect with one another badly but simply can’t.
Reaching Similarity
Moreover as they evolve through the unique, methodical program in their laboratory, this unfulfilled love and their concern moves away from what they personally get our can’t get. Their primary concern becomes how they could help the others to achieve their mutual goal. As a result they start sensing that selfless, unconditional “motherly love” we discussed above.
And the more this new sensation, emotional state is stabilized, the more they start understanding what true love is, where the “lover” doesn’t count any longer, only the “beloved” matters.
And this is already a “supernatural” sensation people normally don’t possess. It is already a state outside of the inherent egoistic, subjective cocoon we are born into. This “out of body” love and concern towards others, desperately trying to help the others in the circle to reach the “motherly love” already provides a taste of the original, elemental, pure “true love” that is capable of creating, sustaining and nurturing life, existence.
In their distress, in the depth of that desperate motherly concern, from the insatiable need for others they touch the very source that created them. For the first time they make contact with the source that gave them existence exactly for the purpose acquiring this contact.
This is like the deep, visceral, mutual understanding of “heart broken mothers” wanting only to care for the safety and fulfillment of their children.
Equivalence Through Absolute Love
Here a unique duality appears. On one hand the suffering, the “love sickness”, the broken heart and concern for others remains. But within this an unprecedented happiness, joy awakens as a result of the clear, tangible similarity sensed with nature’s governing force.
At this point there is a great temptation for the members of the circle to become like “lost children” who forget everything, running, embracing their heart broken “mother”. They could simply accept and thank for the gift of existence they received. By doing so they would simply, naturally act on the love they feel towards their life source.
Instead – by continuing their selfless love and service of one another – they overcome even this temptation. Instead of remaining in the state of “loving their source since they received their existence from it” – like slaves honoring their benevolent master – they accept their existence as a means of selflessly loving, serving their source through the “love of others” they maintain.
They are ready to completely, unconditionally nullify themselves, their whole existence, only accepting existence in order to be able to provide the purest love possible. And it is through this absolute, true love that they become equivalent with their loving source.
And it is through this equivalence that they start sensing the “contentment” of the source, since its evolutionary plan with Human beings fulfilling their purpose is completed.
Entering The Force-Field 