Question: How do I stop comparing myself and my life to someone who I adore? She has the exact opposite of my life, full of amazing positivity and happiness opposite of all of my awfulness. I cannot enjoy anything anymore. I can’t just “stop” for some reason.
Answer: I think all you need is a simple psychological shift and “a little help from your friends”. If we envy, admire someone we love, adore, than it’s easy to make that envy, admiration a positive one, actively aspiring, thriving to become like that “role model”.
It is even better if we can “recruit” that role model, and others to start helping each other, by mutually pointing out, highlighting positive qualities in each other – even artificially, anybody if we look deeper we all have many positive qualities, talents – while actively helping others to achieve our own positive qualities.
If we can manufacture a positive, mutual equality – each friend magnifying the positive qualities of the others while giving them a helping hand – such an environment can elevate each member above themselves, bestowing to them capabilities, qualities they never thought they could achieve.
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