Eternal Love

“Fish Love”

They say true love is eternal. And while this statement is correct, by default we are unable to sense it this way.

The love we sense through our inherently egocentric and subjective nature is – as wise sages call it – “fish love”. We love something that tastes good. In other words we can only express love towards something or somebody when this “love” gives us pleasure, reward or at least some kind of a feedback.

Simple Calculations

This is understandable since love is a great commitment. It means opening ourselves, our “heart” towards another. It means a certain level of dependency and an unusual care, concern, service and self-sacrifice towards the beloved.

Thus it is understandable that our egocentric, self-protective nature expects assurances, guarantees in order to allow, give energy for such emotions, attachments toward someone or something else.

There is nothing evil, wicked in this since according to our inherent software that is built on a simplistic egocentric pleasure/pain calculation, we can’t even move a finger unless we see some benefit from it.

Thus everything we do, including loving someone or something depends on our own benefit. It depends on the precise equation our “inner accountant” is calculating, where the self cannot remain in deficit.

Conditional Love

So whatever, whoever we love at the ends of the day the love is still centered around our own self. Even when we love another, through that person we love ourselves.

This is why the love we know by default is locked into the same subjective coordinates of time, space and motion which are helping us in any other self-serving calculations.

So our love depends on what happens within these earthly coordinates. Our loving emotions are greatly influenced by time and space and in most of the “regular cases” time and distance erodes and slowly erases the flames of love compared to the tangible sensations of love and attraction through love, physical or virtual contact.

Without such obvious, tangible feedback, reassurances we are simply incapable of maintaining the same commitment, burning projection, affection towards another as our selfish fuel runs out. Our self-protective, survival reflexes cannot allow such a wasteful state.

Detecting The Flow

In order to make love truly eternal, to make it a constant, unyielding, emotional impression beyond “fish love” we have to detach this emotion from ourselves.

We could say, “Wait a minute if love is independent of my self, then how can there be love at all, who loves?!”

In truth love, or any other sensation, thought, desire we feel is never really our own, it never originates in us. We are simply detecting, observing waves, frequencies, fluctuations flowing, streaming through us.

We consider ourselves “generators”, “creators”, “inventors” of thoughts, desires, actions or objects, and we also consider ourselves “end stations/store houses” where thoughts, desires, actions or objects can be accumulated.

But we are simply fully integrated parts, “cogwheels” of a vast, cosmic, natural system. And whatever circulates within the system flows through us. Then we give that flow a certain unique, individual flavor, spice, color and taste and this is what we detect, observe through our perceiving faculties.

A Selfishly Distorted Emotional Picture

As a result of our integration we are surrounded by different other elements, like people in this fully interdependent natural system, and through being in contact with them we relate our emotional impressions – that we receive from the systems flow – to those elements, people we get into contact with.

We attribute our emotional impressions to these elements, people that surround us. Thus we believe we love or hate certain objects, people as a result of their qualities, actions. But in truth we just project on them whatever we received, whatever flows through us in the system colored, disgusted by our own qualities.

As a result of the above mentioned inherently self-loving, self-serving and self-justifying operating software we sense everything according to whether it is good or bad for ourselves. And this is the only calculation that determines whether we love or hate the other elements, people surrounding us, it has nothing to do with the qualities, actions of those others.

If we managed to “switch off”, or rise above this inherent self-centered software, if we could neutralize our individual coloring, distorting of whatever streams through us from the system, we would sense only one emotion: pure, absolute and perfect love, the “mother’s love” of Mother Nature.

Nature’s Perfection

Nature’s vast, cosmic, fully integrated system is permeated and driven by a single “idea”, principle: creating then sustaining and nurturing life.

Everything is organized and aimed at promoting life and development in order to reach a final, predetermined, most optimal state of the whole cosmic system. There myriads of seemingly incompatible, vastly different elements comprise a beautiful, intricately interconnected, colorful mosaic that exists as a single, perfect, living and breathing whole.

This idea, the perfect “motherly love” flows through each element from the inanimate through the vegetative and animate levels. Only Human beings are seemingly outside of the “circle of life”, disconnected from the unbounded, uninterrupted circulation of nature’s life giving force.

“Human Mutation”

On the other hand – since we also evolved from the same natural system – we also possess the same “inner software” that guides the rest of the system towards mutual guarantee, where each individual element automatically suspends, forfeits self-service, self-calculations in order to serve the most optimal well-being of the whole.

In nature individualistic calculations are always subjugated to the collective meds of the whole system.

In our biological bodies cells, organs adjust their operations, even suppress, kill themselves in order to facilitate the well-being of the whole body. Predators only kill for survival while the prey “subconsciously knows” that by being eaten it serves the “circle of life” of the system.

In humans this primordial, natural software is dormant. It is suppressed by the unique Human mutation, where self-service, selfish calculations, individual survival even at the expense of the whole is maintained and guarded at all costs.

This is why by default we are incapable of sensing anything else but self-love, and as discussed above even our love projected towards outside of the self is selfish, serving our own fulfillment only.

In order to make us capable of sensing the eternal love circulating in the system we would need to neutralize, suppress this human mutation. We need to cut the selfish anchors irrevocably chaining us to the inherent self-love.

Paradox In The Laboratory

In order to perform such life-changing “surgery”, inner change, we need to enter a very special human environment designed and conducted for this specific purpose.

In that environment fully committed individuals “sign a covenant” to help one another rising above the inherent self-love in order to get to sense the pure, unadulterated “motherly love” circulating in reality.

The practical method in this “Human laboratory”, incubator seems like a classical “chicken or egg” scenario.

These people try to “wash each other out” of the inherent self-love, self-protection by play acting, showcasing absolute, unconditional trust, and love towards one another. In other words they would need to use the very “primordial, natural, motherly love” of the natural system they want to reveal and have no previous experience, knowledge about.

They would need to use a quality – selfless, unconditional love and service towards others – they do not possess in order to reveal and attain the same quality.

The “Miracle” Of Evolution

Actually these pioneers do not need to actually succeed in their efforts. What they need to reach through their fully devoted mutual efforts is reaching a desperate, insatiable yearning, desire for the “eternal love” they don’t possess.

After performing every trick they are taught, after exerting till their “last breath” in order to help one another in reaching their collective goal they need to reach a desperate revelation. They need to viscerally, tangibly feel that although they made acquiring “true, eternal love” a question of life or death – that life is truly not worth living without it – they would never be able to achieve this goal individually, or even collectively without a “miracle”.

In truth the “miracle” they need is a natural phenomena. As we mentioned above even human beings posses the primordial, natural software designed to altruistically create and nurture life. Thus the only thing that is needed is the reactivation, awakening of this dormant, primordial software by the suppression of the selfish, egoistic “human upgrade”.

The above mentioned desperate breaking point, true “love or death” deadlock can achieve this dramatic change in the balance in between the two contrasting operating software inside people.

Loving The Love

The moment the selfish, egoistic “human upgrade” is suspended people immediately start feeling the all encompassing “circle of life” circulation flowing through them.

The initial software – together with the constant criticism, negative judgement toward others – doesn’t disappear but it becomes “muffled”. And above this suspended, muffled original calculation the members of the laboratory start sensing an unprecedented, involuntary love streaming towards the same people they would otherwise criticize, judge and reject.

Only this dual sensation – newly acquired, “supernatural” love above the instinctive rejection, hate – gives validity to the new sensation. Only the stark contrast makes this love that doesn’t depend on personal states, that isn’t bound by time, space or motion realistic.

This new love is “one sided” – outside, away from the self – and is unstoppable. They sense that they are simply compelled to love those others regardless of their own states, feelings, regardless of personal thoughts or desires.

And after they stabilized this new sensation, after they can tolerate the unprecedented duality of contrasting emotions, they start to make expert, comparative research in between. They start to correctly attain that those others are simply vessels, vehicles in order to connect to and sense the source of this primordial, natural, motherly love.

Behind every person, element they feel loving attraction to, they sense this all encompassing source. It would be impossible to sense this primordial, eternal love without those others this love clothes into. The moment their constantly fighting, resisting, never yielding selfish, egoistic Human software succeeds in detaching them from those others, the circulation, and the sensation of the eternal love immediately disappears.

Still it is clear that the true “object of desire” is the actual “primordial love” itself while everything else are the necessary, irreplaceable tools, vehicles through which that love can appear. At that point the loving person, the others, the conductors, vehicles of love and the source of life eternally merge together.


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