Question: Is there truly no such thing as the right person?
Answer: The “right person” is a process of development, when we “choose” someone and then gradually, mutually form, sculpt each other to become the right person for one another.
I know that in Western societies we mostly look down on “arranged marriage”, especially as how it is usually portrayed shows a very false, distorted picture of it. But the main idea behind “arranged marriage” is that usually the parents – or someone with great experience in the subject – tries to match two inexperienced young people with one another, to provide them with the most optimal external conditions, so then they could build a mutually, loving life together. But this building is already on those young people who “tie the knot”
And this is based on the notion (built on thousands of years of Wisdom) that “true love” is not instinctive, it is not hormonal, but it is purposefully, proactively, consciously acquired. “True love” is accepting, taking the desires, needs of another and perfectly, unconditionally fulfilling them with any selfish, egoistic distortions.
In fact even in our “open, liberal” Western societies our relationships, marriages are “arranged”, except that we trust this arrangement to “blind faith”, random chances, bodily, hormonal, animate urges. But when the initial infatuation “expires” we are left with the same task: to build a mutual life together based on “true love”.
The greatest problem is that we simply do not have the right upbringing, education on how to build “true love” in between two inherently egoistic, self-serving people who decide to spend years, decades or even their whole adult life together. Everything depends on this upbringing, education since we have to make something work above, against our instincts, animate urges.
Entering The Force-Field 