Question: Are you or have you ever been truly happy as a single person, or are you/were you just putting up a facade?
Answer: There was a time when I felt myself happy as a single person and I do not think I was putting up a facade.
You see we are all born with an inherently self-serving, self-justifying nature with a very powerful survival, self-protective reflex. We always try to justify our given situation as the best possible one, while negating, downplaying, criticizing the situation of others.
Moreover we also evaluate everything in contrast, through comparative research. Until one feels the qualitatively higher happiness, joy that is found within truly positive, mutually supportive and mutually fulfilling Human relationships, one truly believes that living alone, counting only on oneself we can become more happy than with others, where we seemingly have to make a lot of compromises.
And since today nobody gets the right upbringing, “schooling” about how to build those truly positive, mutually supportive and mutually fulfilling relationships, even after trying living together with others, we run back into isolation, prefer being alone due to the repeated failures in our badly built and conducted relationships.
Thus in order to experience the much higher quality, much more sustainable happiness that is found within the right Human relationships, first of all we need to learn how to build those relationships, through the right, purposeful and practical educational method.