Question: What situation in your life did you absolutely hate but then, as the time passed, have realized it had a good impact on your life and brought you to something greater?
Answer: I think it was the realization after the “honeymoon” period, that in a marriage – when you tie your life to another proudly individualistic, “egocentric” person – your whole life will be about sensing your own egoistic, selfish desires, urges and then restricting them in order to keep a unique, fragile union in between two egoists alive. It is obviously hateful, intolerable for the inherent ego in us.
On the other hand we gain something new: true love. When the two egoists, who for the sake of love mutually agree to restrict their own egoistic urges in order to sense and fulfill the other unconditionally, in between them reveal a new emotional impression that is mutual, and is above both of them.
This new sensation, new kind of “loving existence” – only for the sake of the other – appears above the egoistic self-love which doesn’t disappear but remains as a contrasts, making the “true love” real.
Entering The Force-Field 