Question: What’s something truly simple that you find difficult to do?
Answer: Loving others seems simple. After all we keep talking about “love”, we keep celebrating it, we write, read, sing about it all the time.
But there is nothing more difficult than truly loving others, since it can only happen at the expense of loving ourselves. And loving ourselves is the only thing we know how to do. We are born with a 100% self-serving, self-justifying nature, that can make calculations only for the sake of the self.
“Love” as we know it is like “fish-love” – I love fish because it tastes good. I can “love” something, someone as long as this “love” brings me pleasure. If the selfish interest wanes, stops, the “love” is gone as well.
In order to learn how to love others, first we need to disengage from the instinctive self-love through a long, gradual, purposeful and methodical process. For that we need the right, purposeful and practical method, and the laboratory where love is “conjured”, generated in between people who are ready, committed to change self-love to love of others.