Question: How do I learn how to close up myself when around others who are toxic?
Answer: We do not have to learn this, this “self-closing-up” ability comes in us by default. Since we are all born with an inherently self-serving, self-justifying, hateful and subjective nature we consider others as “toxic”, harmful from our own point of view by default, as our approach to each other is instinctively distrusting, rejecting. We are all locked up inside our own, introverted fortresses.
What we need to learn instead is how to open ourselves up, how to shed our shields, self-protective armor above and despite our instinctive reactions. Only “above reason”, acquiring “supernatural” – above instincts – trust can we built true, positive and sustainable mutually supportive and mutually complementing connections our collective problem solving ability and survival depends on.
Of course for such unprecedented trust, self-upgrade we need a unique, “laboratory-like” environment where everybody is fully committed to achieve the above result, on one hand creating a “mother’s womb” for others while on the other hand placing themselves into the womb created by others as an embryo!